I’m Attracted To A Girl, But I Have A Boyfriend; Am I’m Bisexual?

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There I was quietly enjoying my coffee with my coworkers when the new girl walked past. Her appearance left me totally overwhelmed and virtually speechless! This girl is gorgeous, she exudes something so magnetic that I struggle to take my eyes off her. The one problem is; I’m already in a relationship, but with a man! Do my sudden feelings for her mean I’m actually bisexual? Have I totally misunderstood my sexuality all of these years?!

I’m Attracted To A Girl, But I Have A Boyfriend; Am I’m Bisexual?
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Am I bisexual, or just confused?

As soon as I am close to her, my sensations are heightened, there is something in her that excites me. All it takes is a compliment from her to melt me from the inside out. When I make love to my partner, I think of her, she is part of my erotic dreams and in the morning, I confess, I make myself look pretty for her. But what is happening to me? Am I a lesbian? Bisexual maybe? Or, is it the thought of an exciting adventure that’s making these feelings emerge?

Being attracted to someone of the same sex can lift the veil on deep desires. Perhaps I actually like girls and being around my colleague is helping me realize who I really am. Heterosexuality is an acquired normality, a ready-made path that one sometimes follows without asking oneself the question. Being attracted to someone of the same sex can make us aware that we are open to other possibilities than those we already know. Whether it is homosexuality or bisexuality, this attraction can reveal a profound nature. If, on the other hand, we have always felt heterosexual, being attracted to a girl proves that we are ready for new adventures and to open ourselves up to different types of relationships and love making.

In any case, if this attraction is deep and creates a real desire and a lot of questions, it can be interesting to talk about it with someone you trust: friends, spouse or even a psychologist.

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Can you be straight and have a crush on the same gender?

Of course, you can! Sexuality is never straightforward (if you'll pardon the pun), meaning that we can be attracted to many people, regardless of their genders. What if we didn't worry about a person's gender or our sexual orientation? Attraction is above all linked to the person we are dating, their personality, character, complicity and the shared discussions, etc. Charm works, and it doesn't matter if it is a man or a woman. The context in which you made this meeting is perhaps the engine that pushed you to drop your preconceived ideas.

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Editor's note - The importance of questioning yourself

Many of us grow up with a heterosexual model that we reproduce by choice or by constraint. As in all things, with one's sexual orientation, it is important to be in agreement with oneself and to question oneself. Can I say that I don't like women if I've never considered it before? Let's question ourselves, follow our instincts, feel free and assume our choices.

🤗 Understand yourself, accept yourself, be happy... Let’s do it here and now!

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